Arguing to Win vs. Arguing to Heal: What’s Your Style?
Every couple argues — but how they argue can either strengthen their bond or slowly wear it down. The difference lies in the intention behind the conflict. Are you fighting to prove you're right, or are you fighting for the relationship? Let’s break it down. Arguing to Win: The Ego Game This style is about being right. The goal isn’t resolution — it’s victory . Signs you’re arguing to win: You interrupt often, eager to counter rather than understand. You bring up past mistakes as ammo. You focus on “scoring points” — making your partner look wrong or unreasonable. Apologies feel like defeat. While this might satisfy your ego in the short term, it often leaves emotional bruises and unresolved pain behind. Arguing to Heal: The Connection Game Here, the focus is on understanding and repairing — not defeating. It’s rooted in emotional maturity and vulnerability. Signs you're arguing to heal: You listen more than you talk. You stay curious, not defensive. You say things like “He...
