The Language of Suicide Prevention: Why Words Matter
The Language of Suicide Prevention: Why Words Matter
As a psychologist with years of experience working with individuals navigating emotional pain, I have learned one universal truth—language can heal, or it can harm. When it comes to suicide prevention, the words we choose are more than semantics—they are lifelines.
Why Language Matters in Mental Health
Mental health is still surrounded by stigma in many cultures. Suicide, in particular, remains a deeply sensitive and misunderstood topic. Our words can either build bridges to understanding or reinforce the silence that keeps people suffering in isolation. Every conversation we have about suicide has the power to shape someone’s willingness to seek help—or retreat further into despair.
The Impact of Stigmatizing Phrases
Let’s consider a common phrase: “committed suicide.” This term originated from a time when suicide was considered a crime or a sin. Using it today unintentionally carries that judgment forward, suggesting moral failing or criminality. In contrast, the phrase “died by suicide” or “lost their life to suicide” reflects the reality: a tragic loss due to overwhelming psychological pain, not a criminal act.
Similarly, describing someone’s struggle as “attention-seeking” is dismissive and damaging. What if instead we said “a call for help” or “a sign of distress”? Changing the lens through which we view behavior changes how we respond—and that can make all the difference.
For Survivors and the Bereaved
Those who have lost someone to suicide often face not only grief but also guilt, shame, and social isolation. The way we speak to or about suicide loss survivors should be gentle, respectful, and supportive. Avoid asking intrusive questions or making assumptions. Simple acknowledgments like, “I’m here for you,” or “This must be incredibly difficult,” can offer immense comfort.
Creating Safe Conversations
In clinical settings, we are trained to use nonjudgmental and validating language. But outside therapy rooms, everyone—parents, teachers, colleagues, friends—needs to know how to speak safely about suicide.
Here are a few practical shifts:
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“She’s crazy.” → “She’s struggling with her mental health.”
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“He threatened suicide.” → “He expressed suicidal thoughts.” -
“Failed suicide attempt.” → “Non-fatal suicide attempt” or “survived a suicide attempt.”
These may seem small, but in psychology, we know that small shifts can lead to powerful transformations.
Final Thoughts
Language alone won't prevent suicide, but it lays the foundation for empathy, connection, and healing. By choosing words that reduce stigma and express understanding, we help create a culture where it's safe to ask for help—and safe to offer it.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please remember: help is available, and you are not alone. Sometimes, the right words can be the first step toward saving a life.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Q1. Why is it wrong to say “committed suicide”?
A: The word “committed” is often linked to crimes or sins (e.g., “committed murder” or “committed theft”). Saying “committed suicide” can unintentionally add shame and blame to a deeply painful situation. Instead, use phrases like “died by suicide” or “lost their life to suicide” to reflect a more compassionate and accurate understanding.
Q2. Can changing language really prevent suicide?
A: While language alone doesn’t prevent suicide, it plays a critical role in shaping social attitudes. Compassionate, non-stigmatizing language encourages open conversation, helps people feel less alone, and increases the likelihood that someone will reach out for support.
Q3. How should I talk to someone who is suicidal?
A: Speak gently, listen actively, and avoid judgment. Use phrases like “I care about you,” “You’re not alone,” or “I’m here to listen.” Avoid minimizing their feelings or trying to “fix” them. Encourage them to speak to a mental health professional and offer to help them get support.
Q4. What should I avoid saying to someone struggling with suicidal thoughts?
A: Avoid saying things like:
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“It’s all in your head.”
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“You have so much to live for!”
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“Snap out of it.”
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“Other people have it worse.”
These phrases can make a person feel unheard or ashamed. Instead, validate their feelings and gently guide them toward help.
Q5. What if I accidentally use the wrong phrase?
A: Don’t be too hard on yourself. The important part is recognizing and making an effort to change. You can simply say, “I’m sorry—I meant to say that differently,” and continue the conversation with kindness.
Dr.P. Madhurima Reddy
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